Chances are, most of us have heard them or said these words: “They are in a better place now,” “All things happen for a reason,” “Time heals all wounds,” etc. As a grief supporter, these phrases may seem helpful in the moment. They put them in condolence cards, don’t they? How bad could they be? However, these statements when spoken generally result in adding distance between you and the person grieving. This is because platitudes are often used by those who do not know the deceased and/or the person grieving very well. This is not to say that platitudes are bad, however. A platitude is polite, but it is definitely not personal. It is an attempt to make the person feel better at a time when absolutely nothing could. If you can’t think of anything to say to the bereaved, tell them that you are at a loss for words. It is more honest, and the person grieving probably understands it more than most.
Please remember this is one suggestion for how to help support those in grief. Please feel free to review more of our tips here. And, always remember, you don’t have to journey alone…even as a supporter!