When a person is in grief, they often will act out of character. They are experiencing intense emotions and desperately trying to adjust to a very different reality. During this time, attempting to provide comfort and validating their reactions and feelings can be helpful. However, pointing out how they “should” be doing or feeling or thinking is not helpful. Expressing, either verbally or in body language, that you are disappointed or disapproving of how they are carrying the weight of their grief is not part of being a good supporter. If concerned about them or their behavior as being harmful, let them know and inquire if there is something you can do to help. Otherwise, the best thing you can do is listen and do your best to try to understand their pain and loss.
Please remember this is one suggestion for how to help support those in grief. Please feel free to review more of our tips here.
